Finding out that someone you love has been diagnosed with cancer is an emotionally daunting experience. And while it's ok to move through every feeling, it’s just as important to remember that you can also make a difference to the person at the centre of it all, with your care and support.
How to support a loved one during cancer treatment
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1 April 2025
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It can be hard to know how to help someone you love throughout their cancer journey. But there are some simple, powerful things you can do to make it less lonely.
You don’t need to have the answers. You just need to be there.
One of the toughest things about cancer is that there are no quick fixes or easy solutions. Being present for your loved one can make a world of difference. You don’t have to know all the right words to say, and it’s ok to admit that. Showing up regularly in person and offering your support, even if it’s to say “I’m here,” can speak volumes.
Listen without judgement.
Everyone processes cancer differently. Some people might want to talk about it all the time, while others might need a distraction. The key here is to listen and follow their lead. Let your loved one share as much or as little as they want and try to avoid giving unsolicited advice unless asked. If they want to vent, let them. If they want to share their fears or uncertainties, offer an empathetic ear. Whatever shape their feelings take, listen, acknowledge and reassure them that their feelings are valid.
Get practical.
Cancer can take a lot from our lives. Between long treatments, endless appointments, pervasive side effects and a heavy mental load, everyday tasks can fall by the wayside. Offering practical help can go a long way in easing some of that burden. Whether it’s helping with grocery shopping, preparing meals, or running errands, offering to help or simply doing something nice without being asked can ease their mental load.
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Stay positive, but realistic.
Encouragement and support go a long way. So does being a realist. Some days with cancer will be harder than others, so instead of pushing for constant positivity, try to balance optimism with honesty. Sometimes saying “I know this sucks, but I’m here for whatever you need” can be more uplifting than saying “everything will be ok.”
Give them space.
Sometimes, giving your loved one some alone time to recharge can be one of the best ways to support them. Some days, they may need time alone to process their emotions or simply rest. Some days they may want you to just be there for company, nothing more. Respect their needs and be understanding if they’re not up for socialising or talking.
Help them stay connected.
Sometimes, cancer can cause people to feel disconnected from their world, especially if they need to cut back on work or outings due to treatment. Helping your loved one stay and feel connected to their social circle, like organising a video calls or even small gatherings (if they’re feeling up to it), can help remind them that their life isn’t all cancer; they are a whole person who is supported, loved and connected.
Take care of yourself too.
You can’t pour from an empty cup, so make sure to take care of your own wellbeing. Whether that means having a day at home, talking to someone you trust, or finding ways to relax, taking care of yourself will help you be the best supporter you can be. Plus, with access to the Mental Wellbeing Benefit on AIA Vitality, you could also earn up to 3,000 points each year.
Cancer is a journey no one should have to face alone. Simply showing up, staying present, and letting your loved one know they are not alone can be a priceless gift during their toughest times.
Staff Writer
Staff writers come from a range of backgrounds including health, wellbeing, music, tech, culture and the arts. They spend their time researching the latest data and trends in the health market to deliver up-to-date information, helping everyday Australians live healthier lives. This is general information only and is not intended as medical, health, nutritional or other advice. You should obtain professional advice from a medical or health practitioner in relation to your own personal circumstances.
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