Releasing perfectionism

Transcript
28 April 2024
Transcript

The following is a guided meditation.

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Hello and welcome to this meditationabout releasing perfectionism.
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One of the common experiences thatcan arise for someone who is prone to
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perfectionism is having a fear of failure.
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Not being perfect and making mistakescan be scary or overwhelming,
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but mistakes and failureare a normal part of life.
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Building up your tolerance and resiliencewhen it comes to failure can be really
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important,
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and that's why I'll be guiding you topractice failing during this meditation.
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This is a safe place for you to practicefailing without consequences so you can
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start practicing giving yourselfpermission to be imperfect.
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To begin, let your body sinkdown into a comfortable position,
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and you are welcome tolet your eyes fall closed.
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I'm going to give you someguidance during this meditation,
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and I'd like you to do theexact opposite. So if I say,
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don't think about the color blue,
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then your task is topicture the color blue.
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If I say hold your breath foras long as you can continue to
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breathe or even starttaking nice, deep breaths,
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the aim is simply to fail.
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At every piece of guidance Ishare with you until I say,
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that's the end of your failing practice.
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Don't worry if this takessome practice. At first,
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it might take a few tries beforeyou feel comfortable with this,
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and if you're findingthis practice challenging,
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try reassuring yourself withthe following statement.
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This is a safe space for me to fail.
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This is a safe space for me to fail.
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Let's begin.
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Don't think about the color blue.
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Don't think about the color blue.
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Now, hold your breathfor as long as you can.
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Hold your breath for as long as you can.
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Don't listen to the sounds you can hear.
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Don't listen to the sounds you can hear.
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Open your eyes. Open your eyes.
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That's the end of your failing practice.
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We are going to do anotherround in a few moments,
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but I'd like you to checkin with how you're feeling.
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Did you experience someresistance to failing?
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Did you find it challengingto practice failing,
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or maybe you're alreadygetting used to it.
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You might be giving yourselfpermission to be imperfect.
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Maybe it's even a bit of a relief.
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Any experience is okay,
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we're going to try the same practiceagain, but with different guidance.
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Once again,
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your aim is to do the opposite ofwhat I share with you until I say
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that's the end of your failing practice.
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First of all,
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focus on the sensations in yourfingertips and don't let your mind wander.
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Focus on the sensations in yourfingertips and don't let your mind wander.
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Don't think about what you did firstthing when you woke up this morning.
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Don't think about what you did firstthing when you woke up this morning.
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Don't think to yourself, I'm doingwell with this meditation practice.
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Don't think I'm doing wellwith this meditation practice.
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Don't observe how yourbody feels in this moment.
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Don't observe how yourbody feels in this moment.
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That's the end of yourfailing practice. Well done.
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If you let yourself fail during thismeditation by doing the exact opposite of
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what I asked you to do,
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or even if your mind wandered offcompletely and you barely paid attention,
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I'd like you to say inyour mind a few times now,
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I failed and it was okay.
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I failed and it was okay.
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Really try to let the feeling ofthis statement sink into your body.
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I failed and it was okay.
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The purpose of this meditation was togive you a safe space to fail so you can
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observe how failing isn't alwaysas scary as it might seem sometimes
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over time. This can help you build yourtolerance towards failure and release
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perfectionism.
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Thank you for meditating with meand I hope you have a wonderful day.